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Like that ever stopped somebody! :rolleyes:


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Nah I don't think he is gay. Or else my gaydar would have told me so. Anyways I don't care about it/him either.
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LOL oh oke... it's sad you don't care for him, (or maybe also vice versa)....:(


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s*** happens. But too personal now for a public forum .

 

*shuts his mouth*

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*hug* for Jeroen


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I don't think you should do anything, KimboCosmo - if your friend's not ready to come out, then just be happy that they trust you enough to tell you, and you only.

 

I don't think people have to be 'open and honest with everyone', just because they're gay. Just like straight people don't have to announce that they are straight. I think it's tiring to hear about how people are so much happier after coming out, but to be honest, many gay people I know are quite obviously gay, and so it's no surprise to anyone when they finally do make their announcement.

 

But, I know of some gay people who you would never tell were gay. I know they are gay, because they trust me enough to tell me, but I have never tried convincing them, or talked them into coming out. Their parents don't know, their other friends don't know - and it's easier. But my friends don't put on an act, and check out girls. They don't check out guys either. When we go out, we go out to enjoy eachother's company, not to go out and pull.

 

Like you said, parents can be totally against homosexuality. From the moment they realize they're going to have a baby, they start to imagine how their child's going to grow up, and when suddenly they find out that the way their child wants to lead their life is different to how they want, it's tough for everyone all round.

 

I don't think it's being a coward, and 'not admitting to themselves or others of who they really are'.

 

It's up to them only whether they decide to tell their parents, or other friends. It's not a job you or I should undertake ourselves to get them to tell everyone.

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^I agree. I'm gay and I came out of the closet when i felt ready. That was last october, and all my friends and most of my family are fine with me being gay. You just need to let the person have the time they need. Only they will know when the time is right to come out.

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Here is a SAD TRUTH!

Homosexuality is STILL illegal in some states!

Sodomy Laws in the United States

The U.S. Supreme Court ruled 6-3 that sodomy laws are unconstitutional on June 26, 2003.

The sodomy law map below is prior to Lawrence v. Texas. All states are now white, ie the sodomy laws are unconstitutional and unenforceable. However, some states still attempt to enforce their laws. See Virginia, Oklahoma, and North Carolina. The U.S. Military enforces its sodomy regulation without regard to Lawrence.

 

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Well, I live in a "white" state...so I guess that is good...lol This is crazy, I didn't even know all this! :glare: It's rediculous, really.

 

 

i live in Texas and trust me its not as bad and it looks , no one messes with us at least in the city.

 

 

I don't think homosexuality itself is illegal. I don't see how they could ever get away with that. But anyway as mentioned above...

try going out with him/her to the gay spots. Make your friend comfortable in those surrondings and around others who have been through the same thing. Maybe your friend is not 100 percent comfortable with it himself/herself at the moment. Everyone gay/lesbian even bisexual have a coming out story. Since you personally have never gone through it (Im assuming) maybe he can meet a few there that can give him better advice. Maybe your friend is not 100 percent comfortable with it himself/herself... And like posted above all you can do is be a true friend and listen and be understanding.

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I don't think you should do anything, KimboCosmo - if your friend's not ready to come out, then just be happy that they trust you enough to tell you, and you only.

 

I don't think people have to be 'open and honest with everyone', just because they're gay. Just like straight people don't have to announce that they are straight. I think it's tiring to hear about how people are so much happier after coming out, but to be honest, many gay people I know are quite obviously gay, and so it's no surprise to anyone when they finally do make their announcement.

 

But, I know of some gay people who you would never tell were gay. I know they are gay, because they trust me enough to tell me, but I have never tried convincing them, or talked them into coming out. Their parents don't know, their other friends don't know - and it's easier. But my friends don't put on an act, and check out girls. They don't check out guys either. When we go out, we go out to enjoy eachother's company, not to go out and pull.

 

Like you said, parents can be totally against homosexuality. From the moment they realize they're going to have a baby, they start to imagine how their child's going to grow up, and when suddenly they find out that the way their child wants to lead their life is different to how they want, it's tough for everyone all round.

 

I don't think it's being a coward, and 'not admitting to themselves or others of who they really are'.

 

It's up to them only whether they decide to tell their parents, or other friends. It's not a job you or I should undertake ourselves to get them to tell everyone.

You should just chill...no one here is trying to convince them to "come out". They WANT to come out, but are to afraid...anyway, that is all water under the bridge...this topic is OLD.

 

The things that were stated is from them, the friends "checking out others"...all words from their mouth. No one thinks anyone is a coward or trying to get them to "tell everyone"...

 

You totally misunderstood the message, completely dear.

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My mum always tells me that no one can choose who they'd want to be. Just have confidence and faith in yourself, that's all. We are human and I don't think people should separate themselves between each other by being a man, a woman, or even a gay. Because we are all called "Homo Sapiens". If we don't unite together, how could we survive?

 

By the way, I have gay friends when I was in high school and they were really nice and friendly. I really miss them now. They're the entertainers in class. They love to joke around and dance. Even us girls can't dance that beautiful like them. Makes everyone laugh every time.

 

Just have confidence.

 

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we're all human's. That's all.... nobody should judge.... ^_^

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I waited with telling anyone, till I lived on my own. I was "already" 25 when I had my coming out. Don't force people to come out is my advice.

 

Everyone was fine when I told them. My sister said: "Oh, no! Now I have to tell everyone that they were right!" lol

 

And when I told my mother I wanted to tell her something important, she said: "You have a boyfriend." All I had to say was "yes". She said, she had known since I was four. So there I was: worrying about nothing!

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well im 30 and just starting to, there is no rush i think kids feel the pressure to do it soon as there teens, on the other hand waiting till my age also causes its own pain x x
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well im 30 and just starting to, there is no rush i think kids feel the pressure to do it soon as there teens, on the other hand waiting till my age also causes its own pain x x

 

 

It's always going to be hard no matter what age you are I think. I feel where you are coming from cause you had the "straight" life and created a family...and yeah...extremely difficult.

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so maybe better when your younger,
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Well, I'm 25 and I still cannot imagine telling my parents. They would FREAK on me! :ermm: My parents are the type that are like "Your going to hell if your gay, and that is not normal, it's an imbalance in the brain"...yeah.... :glare:

 

 

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I can't imagine telling my parents either. I don't think they'd hate me but... I just can't tell them. I'd be so relieved if my feelings changed and I was straight after all!

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