Can't cope

[Mazsgirl]

In november last yr i decided it was time to stop living a lie, for 16 yrs i'd been dating men and i just was not happy ever. then i met my teenage crush again and believe it or not we got together and i thought all my prayers had been answered, i love her so much and couldnt imagin a day without her. the thing is i keep making a bollocks of things....i'm a talker and if theres anything i need to talk about i try to find someone i trust and talk, its like an off load off worries and ive always thought a problem shared is a problem halved. i just want to make her so so so happy cos she deserves a life full of smiles and i just dont think im right for her, i muck up too much. my love grows for her day by day but what can i do....

 

please if anyone has any advice i'd be so thankfull....i just want her to be happy with me x

[celinerific]

You don't think your right for her? If two people are in love, then they embrace each other and make each other happy. Just because you don't think your right for her, doesn't mean you aren't. You should just feel lucky to have her in the here and now and just go with the flow. It it's meant to be, it will work out, but by thinking your not good enough for her is just a sign of weakness and low self-confidence and that, I can tell you can lead to lots of sh!tty things in a relationship. You just need to buff up your self-confidence, I think...

 

And to further discuss... why don't you think you're right for her?

[Davey84]

there's a song that goes like this:

 

Love doesn't ask why

It speaks from the heart

And never explains

Don't you know that

Love doesn't think twice

It can come all at once

Or whisper from a distance

 

Don't ask me if this feeling's right or wrong

It doesn't have to make much sense

It just has to be this strong

'Cause when you're in my arms I understand

We don't have a voice

When our hearts make the choices

There's no plan

It's not in our hands

 

Love doesn't ask why

It speaks from the heart

And never explains

Don't you know that

Love doesn't think twice

It can come all at once

Or whisper from a distance

 

Now I can feel what you're afraid to say

If you give your soul to me

Will you give too much away

But we can't let this moment pass us by

Can't question this chance

Or expect any answers

We can try

But love doesn't ask you why

 

So let's take what we found

And wrap it around us

 

be who you are and go for it!!!

[Mazsgirl]

i have been told my self-esteem is low and my confidance in who i am is really down too, i just think she needs someone with a bit more strength in them. i always smile when i see her and my heart pounds for her every second of the day but when i'm at home, sorting the kids out i just want to sit in the corner and cry. Hate been apart from her x

[celinerific]

Sounds like you need to go and talk to her one on one.

[Mazsgirl]

i think you could be right...really want to us to be together forever. maybe if we tell each other what we want and need things will be better...x

[celinerific]

Definitely. One of the most important things in a relationship is being able to be open about your thoughts and feelings to one another to understand each other so that there aren't any emotional barriers, you know? It's a good thing to have heart to heart chats with one another once in awhile.

[SensationalCeline]

I think that you should just talk to her as already said. You obviously love her a lot and I don't see a reason why you can't continue to let her love for you and your love for her grow while you get to know each other better. I say go for it and just ask her to meet you somewhere and have a nice long talk and let it all out on the table.