What do you think?

[celine5-5]

O.K., I've liked this girl named Ashley since band started . I don't know her very well, but she's really pretty and she seems really sweet . I didn't want too many people to know, but I did tell a few people. This one girl I talked to about it said that I should go for it. I thought maybe she was too good for me, but my friend told me that she did not think so. Ever since school got out, I've been looking for someone new, because in my last relationship, I was cheated on . It was so bad, I saw my x girlfriend all of the time and it felt like she was subconsciously controlling my life . But I knew things would get better after school let out . But anyway, word got around that I liked Ashley, and my friend that I told about it to, talked to Ashley for a while . I thought Ashley'd be like "Ummm, I don't know you, and you're gross". But according to my friend, she was really kind of thrilled. She'd said that she'd really started to like me . But then, another friend of hers came over and said that maybe she'd regretted what she'd said , but my friend assured me that she was just trying to cause complication, how dare she . My friend also said that there might be someone else who was going to ask her out, but she didn't know what she was going to say . She did say that if she was still single by August 7th, the first day of band camp, she'd go out with me. So I'm really hoping . I'm just really nervous because I've never talked to her, and I'm afraid of akwardness. So just REALLY hope for me. I want to be with someone else before school starts because I don't want to want my x back, she's gross , but yeah, cross your fingers for me .

[mazceline]

I think you should talk to her, see whether you think she like you too and ask if she wants to meet up some time, see what happens, as for your ex keep away.

 

Plus i feel you are rushing, trying to be with some one all the time, why dont you fly solo for a while, wait till some one comes to you, or until you find someone worth the chace, anyway fingers crossed...

[VanMerlin]

My friend also said that there might be someone else who was going to ask her out, but she didn't know what she was going to say  .  She did say that if she was still single by August 7th, the first day of band camp, she'd go out with me.

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So that makes you what...second choice? Don't settle for being an 'either or' in her life. She wants to be with you above anyone else, or she doesn't.

 

I'm just really nervous because I've never talked to her

 

You've never talked to her but you want to go out with her? Umm, bud, slow down!! There's more to a girl than some pretty looks. Get to know her first...get to know her quite well before jumping into a relationship with her.

 

I want to be with someone else before school starts because I don't want to want my x back, she's gross

 

This is NOT a reason to get into a relationship. It's neither fair to you, nor to Ashley. It sounds like you two are getting into a relationship of convenience, to true attraction and liking each other. You can certainly stay away from your ex without needing the excuse of having another girlfriend to back you up.

 

But, on the other hand, I do understand all of it. You're at the age where you're biggest priority is to learn how to relate to other people and grow socially...exploring the world of relationships and all that. I am glad, however, that I left highschool in pursuit of other educational avenues...I hated this entire side of teenagers, even when I was one. I don't envy you!!

[angel_christ]

Hmmm... I've never had any boyfriend in my life. But I'd suggest you should talk to her, to see what she's like and know her more. And don't let your ex let you down. Just think that you can't change the past. Your ex is the past.

If Ashley's really sweet, I don't think that she'll say that you're gross. About another friend of her came to tell you that Ashley'd regretted, I agree with your friend that she's just cause complication. I usually like to joke around my friend about someone she has a crush on (so many ). But we only think that it was a JOKE.

 

Go for it my friend. Talk to her. Nice and easy. Slow but sure. GOOD LUCK!!!

 

[traceline]

i agree angel_christ.I know it too because i had one bf in my life

[gizapup]

Awkwardness can be cute, so instead of talking to your friends or her friends, talk to her yourself. I'd never go out with a guy who doesn't even have the guts to approach me himself.

[catwomanrrr]

celine5-5,

 

Based on the age you put on this forum, you are 17?

You have many, many years of loving to do, many years to develop your experience in love. Love takes time. Don't rush it. And if you do go into it, don't put too much up front, or else you will feel too attached. But be geniune and honest to your partner and yourself. And if things don't work out, you won't regret the experience.

[babymonkey]

If there is one lesson I learned from relationships it's carpe diem! Seize the day brother! Waiting is never a good idea and being with someone for the sake of being with someone is even worse. I spent 5 years of my life with a girl who I didn't love. In that time I met another girl who I fell for but didn't want to hurt my ex so left it alone. When we broke up last year I tracked this other girl down. She had found herself a boyfriend...

 

Basically my point here is, if you like someone go for it. Don't pussy foot around and get your friends to ask her or listen to what you here going round the neighbourhood. Take some control of the situation and just walk up to the girl and say hi. Talk to her. If you get on, ask her out for whatever it is people do over there for fun. It can be difficult to be direct but its a lot more effective!

 

Also, pubs and clubs suck for meeting people. Best place is somewhere you can actually hear the person talk. Clubs might be great for scoring a gorgeous girl (or guy) but it generally isn't the foundation of a lasting relationship... Ooohh listen to me coming over all advicey and stuff