I think I'm going mad!

[angel_christ]

My niece has come to stay with me now. But I don't know why I'm always irritate with her every morning. And some mistakes she made, just a little mistake, I always go furious with her. Sometimes when I saw her with my mum, helping with some work, I'll go crazy at the sight (I feel like I'm losing mum, because it's always the two of us since dad died four years ago). And today I'm feeling crazier than ever, I feel that I'm so miserable, that I wanna stay in somewhere else but here, not in Thailand. And especially, when I heard my niece mumbled Celine's song (She could not speak English, so she was singing in wrong phonetically words) I'll go crazy and start shouting at her to shut her mouth. I don't wanna be like this. I don't wanna do this to her. Should I go and see the psychiatrist?

[gizapup]

anger management?

 

I ignore relatives I don't like, I couldn't care less what they do or say.

 

If you don't like when she helps your mom with work, etc., do it yourself then!

[Célinefull]

anger management?

 

I ignore relatives I don't like, I couldn't care less what they do or say.

 

If you don't like when she helps your mom with work, etc., do it yourself then!

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words of wisdom

[mazceline]

Sounds like your jeleous, end of the day your mum will always be your mum, and that love is stronger than for anyone else. you are her number one. try to do things all together never know if you try it you may enjoy it

[celinedionsfan]

You're not going crazy ... you said you and your Mum have been alone for the last four years. Now you've got someone else there. It takes time to get used to having another person around the house again ... it takes time to get used sharing your Mum's attention and affection ... give yourself that time before you decide that your only choice is to leave.

 

[VanMerlin]

Have patience. I know it's an adjustment, and now you're having to get used to someone else taking your mother's time, but your mother has a big heart and has enough love for both of you. Be kind to your niece. Your annoyance with her, at the slightest things, is a sign of your insecurity...your fear that she will take something away from you in some way. But you know what? She may bring a lot of joy and happiness into your life if you allow it. She's not taking your place. She's not taking your mother away from you. She can, in fact, be bringing good things into your life.

 

Just love her. Accept that she is a soul and has a heart that deserves to live the best life possible, and doesn't deserve your anger. That will make her feel unwanted and will put a heavy weight on the house...which will effect everyone badly. Have compassion for your niece's situation and understand that she is going through an adjustment now as well.

 

If she's helping your mother with work, why not join in? If she can't speak English, explain to her the lyrics that she's trying to sing, and share your joy of Celine with her. Get her involved in your life and find things to share, so you'll enjoy being with her.

 

Don't look at her as a threat. Try to see her as an addition to your life and try to see in which ways you can make peace with her and find fun with her presence.

 

Lastly, talk to your mother. Tell her that you're feeling like you're losing her and that you need to be reassured, every once in awhile, that your mother still loves you. Tell her you need to hear it and be shown it, and I'm sure she'll understand and put your heart at rest. Don't hold it inside or you'll explode one day, and that would put a darkness over everything.

[mazceline]

Yes thats what i meant, but not as well written as the above, this guy should have his own problem page he is good

[Célinefull]

Yes thats what i meant, but not as  well written as the above, this guy should have his own problem page he is good

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haha!

[VanMerlin]

Thank you, maz. I hear that A LOT!!

 

Angel_Christ...let us know how things go with you and your niece. If you ever need anything else, just ask.