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[celinerific]

Some of you, but not all of you know that I am so crazily in love with a girl that I work with, her name is Fara. I work at a restaurant as a hostess and she's one of the servers. She is absolutely GORGEOUS and is really nice and lots of fun to be with. Basically, she's AMAZING. . But the thing is, she's not gay... (I'm not either. I'm in between (bi) ) And she has a boyfriend (apparently), but he lives halfway across the country, but that doesn't bug me.

Anyway, I've been working with her for about two months now and at this point I'm trying to get to know her better, to get close with her and stuff... which I'm approaching quite well, actually. Let me tell you what happened at work last night...

1. I got her to say she loved me! I did something for her and I said, "I'm only doing this because I love you THAT much." And then she said, "Well, I love you too!" And I replied, "Nuhhh. I love you more!" And then it kind of went on for a couple more rounds until we cracked up. But it was so wonderful.

2. I got her to promise me a picture She was sitting in front of me eating chocolate ice cream and then I was fiddling with my phone's camera and was like, "Smile!" and she was like, "Noooo! I'm not wearing makeup! Next time, next time!" And then I said, "Next time? Really? You promise? I remember these things, I'm watching you! Promise??" "Yes! I promise!"

3. She said something to me that made me go completely gah gah. I was waiting for my ride that took FOREVER to come. I ended up staying an hour and a half later than I should  have. I got off at 9:00pm, but didn't get my ride until 10:30pm... Fun, I know lol. And then she comes and sits in front of me and says, "Are you going to sleep here or something?" And I said, "At this rate, I think so." And she said... (OMG) "Awwe. You can come stay at my place. " I practically died LOL. And then I said, "I think that's what we're going to have to do if it comes to terms!" And then another 20 minutes passed by and I was like, "You know... I might have to come and crash at your place tonight." And she said, "Sure! You're more than welcome to!" *dies dies dies*.

4. And lastly... We hugged for the first time! This was absolutely magical! She and another server (Lisa) were about to leave (she was giving Lisa a ride home). And then I got up and was like, "Nope. You two aren't leaving without giving me a hug!" Fara and Lisa are my favourites amongst the servers. So I gave Lisa a hug. She was very huggable since she was kinda pudgy. And then I turned to face Fara and gave her a hug. I was amaaazzzinnggg. She hugged me back.

Anyway... It was an exciting night... for me anyway. My goal now is to get that picture with her... and perhaps get her number soon and then go out with her, like hang out or something to get to know each other better... On a friendly basis. That's all I could want/ask for right now. It's reward just to be able to be with her and to see her.

I was hoping I could get some insights on what I should do, how I should approach her... I know that this forum is full of people willing to help and I'd be so greatful if you could give me a hand! Thanks so much in advance!

Edited by celinerific, 21 June 2008 - 01:10 PM.

[SensationalCeline]

If you love her I say shoot for it, but there is that one small problem that she has a boyfriend...

[incognito]

Woah... that's a huge crush.

[celinerific]

SensationalCeline, on Jun 21 2008, 03:26 PM, said:

If you love her I say shoot for it, but there is that one small problem that she has a boyfriend...

Yeah. I know. So right now, I'm just not going to shoot that far. Right now I want to become really good friends with her so that we can hang out and be close-knit. That's my big goal right now, and I guess if it goes somewhere futher after that, then I think I'll go for it, but if not, then being a close friend will more than amazing.

I should be seeing her on Friday... I can't wait.
I try to talk to her as much as I can when I see her, to inch closer into the center of the friendship circle. I'm getting there slowly, but surely.

Edited by celinerific, 21 June 2008 - 01:38 PM.

[zoea2812]

I would just take it very slowly, as you dont want to ruin your friendship that you already have with her.

[Thomas]

Maybe you could make her a picture in photoshop and impress her?

[celinerific]

Zoea: That's a good idea. I'm doing that now and hoping that it all turns out okay.
I'm very careful not to do anything that would set her off, because that would just totally screw me over, and I don't want that because I truly to care about her so much.

Edited by celinerific, 21 June 2008 - 01:51 PM.

[celinerific]

Thomas, on Jun 21 2008, 03:49 PM, said:

Maybe you could make her a picture in photoshop and impress her?

Haha. I could do that.
Or I could just whip out something already made.
Or if she wants I can make something FOR her. Ouuuu.

[Thomas]

Well I was thinking like a friendship card or something with her favourite things on it. I dunno! What kinds of things does she like? Does she read? Maybe you make her a custom bookmark or something.

[celinerific]

Thomas, on Jun 21 2008, 03:58 PM, said:

Well I was thinking like a friendship card or something with her favourite things on it. I dunno! What kinds of things does she like? Does she read? Maybe you make her a custom bookmark or something.

LOL! Look at your brain, Thomas! It's going at high speed!
I'm not too sure yet, though. I haven't gotten to talk to her THAT much, since I mostly only see her when I work.

[Thomas]

Then make her a T-shirt with your face on it. Make sure she never forgets who you are....lol

[celinerific]

OMG. LOOOLLL!.

She's so wonderful. I'll get a picture with her by next week (hopefully, cross your fingers) and I'll share it here with you guys.
I can't stop thinking about her, it's crazy.

Edited by celinerific, 21 June 2008 - 02:15 PM.

[SensationalCeline]

If she likes Celine, then there's bonding talk right there but if she's kinda iffy, get her to where she listens to Celine then you'll have something to talk about!

[KimboCosmo]

Ohhh lorrrrrrrrrrrd...I knew you'd start a thread  

You are to funny!  Sounds like your doing good though...wont be long and we'll be hearing wedding bells!

[CelineRose2008]

hey if you love her go for it       
just take things slow get to know her more
you never no she could be the one for you     

[Cheerfuljane]

My 2 cents:

1) To go socializing: Tell her you`re going to the mall on Saturday and ask if she wants to go too. Or to the movies or whatever.

2) To get a pic of her: Maybe instead of just taking a picture of just her, take lots of pictures and then just "by chance" get one of her.

3) Once you know her better I like Thomas`s idea

On a more serious note:

4) Buy a diamond ring and ask her to marry you

5) Pitch a tent outside her house and sing love songs all night

6) Make a shirt with her picture in a heart printed on it

[KimboCosmo]

Cheerfuljane, on Jun 21 2008, 08:37 PM, said:

My 2 cents:

On a more serious note:

4) Buy a diamond ring and ask her to marry you

5) Pitch a tent outside her house and sing love songs all night

6) Make a shirt with her picture in a heart printed on it

[stevethefan]

Oh E! you are so funny! I'm probably the last person to give any advice to yo on this but here is my two cents worth via and old 80's song.  

SECRET LOVERS
By: Atlantic Starr

Here we are, the two of us together
Takin’ this crazy chance to be all alone
We both know that we should not be together
‘Cause if we’re found out, it could mess up
Both our happy homes

I hate to think about us all meeting up together
‘Cause as soon as I look at you it will show on my face, yeah
Then they’ll know that we’ve been loving each other
We can’t let ‘em know, no, no, no
We can’t leave a trace

Secret lovers, yeah, that’s what we are
We should not be together
But we can’t let go, no, no
‘Cause we love each other so

Ooh…ooh…

Sittin’ at home, I do nothin’ all day
But I think about you and hope that you’re okay
Hopin’ you’ll call before anyone gets home
I wait anxiously alone by the phone

How could something so wrong be so right
I wish we didn’t have to keep our love out of sight, yeah
Living two lives just ain’t easy at all
But we gotta hang on in there or fall

Secret lovers, yeah, that’s what we are
We should not be together
But we can’t let go, no, no
‘Cause we love each other so

Secret lovers, yeah, that’s what we are
Tryin’ so hard to hide the way we feel
‘Cause we both belong to someone else
But we can’t let go
‘Cause what we feel is, oh, so real
So real, so real

You and me, are we friends
Is this cool or do we care
Can they tell what’s in our minds
Maybe they’ve had secret loves all of the time

In the middle of making love we notice the time
We both get nervous ‘cause it’s way after nine
Even though we hate it, we know it’s time that we go
We gotta be careful so that no one will know

Secret lovers, yeah, that’s what we are
Trying so hard to hide the way we feel
‘Cause we both belong to someone else
But we can’t let go
‘Cause what we feel is, oh, so real
So real, so real, so real, so real

[Krys]

whoa you wrote a novel!

[stevethefan]

lamourpourCeline, on Jun 21 2008, 10:18 PM, said:

whoa you wrote a novel!

More like copied and pasted one!

[Krys]

stevethefan, on Jun 22 2008, 10:20 AM, said:

lamourpourCeline, on Jun 21 2008, 10:18 PM, said:

whoa you wrote a novel!

More like copied and pasted one!

'oney, i meant E! sorry i didnt made that clear

[Edwin]

Hmm, maybe I missed something cause no one else has posted a similar response...but if Fara isn't gay (or bi) then you're just going to end up with a broken heart

[Krys]

who knows Eddie, E! hasnt asked her has she? broken heart maybe. depends on how you take it

[celinerific]

Cheerfuljane, on Jun 21 2008, 08:37 PM, said:

My 2 cents:

1) To go socializing: Tell her you`re going to the mall on Saturday and ask if she wants to go too. Or to the movies or whatever.

2) To get a pic of her: Maybe instead of just taking a picture of just her, take lots of pictures and then just "by chance" get one of her.

3) Once you know her better I like Thomas`s idea

On a more serious note:

4) Buy a diamond ring and ask her to marry you

5) Pitch a tent outside her house and sing love songs all night

6) Make a shirt with her picture in a heart printed on it

Thank you for the first three tips, Jane!
As for numbers 4-6...
    

EdwinDeux, on Jun 21 2008, 10:25 PM, said:

Hmm, maybe I missed something cause no one else has posted a similar response...but if Fara isn't gay (or bi) then you're just going to end up with a broken heart

She's not, and I know she isn't. But I'm cool with that. Like I said, it's a great reward just being able to see her and be with her. And if we become close friends, then I would have reached my goal.   If we go beyond that, then I'll be in heaven.

Edited by celinerific, 21 June 2008 - 08:41 PM.

[KimboCosmo]

Awww well whatever happens, good luck to you E!  You know you always have moi to chat with!  

[celinerific]

It would help if you were online, Kimba.

[scorp82]

I don't mean to rain on your parade, because I certainly know the feeling of having a crush on the wrong individuals, LOL, but please very careful.  Given that you like Fara so much, be very careful if you do develop a friendship with her.  Though you are certain she is not a lesbian and is thus not interested in women, guard yourself against being hurt.  If you have strong feelings for her, a friendship with her may deeply strengthen your feelings for her.  Even if such feelings grow deeper, you will still have to contend with the fact that she does not feel the same way about you.  That may lead to great frustration and you may end up very hurt.

[celinerific]

Wow, Mr. Psychologist LOL.
I'm aware of all that. In my head, it's only going as far as friendship... A close-knit friendship. Nothing more than that. Like I said... I'm not going to push things further than a friendship like I have with my current close friends. I'm going to let it flow the way it wants... And right now I'm happy. Very much so. Though of course, I remain very careful. I'm sure of what I want and know that I'm going along the right path. I'm getting insights and advice from people here... and people I know. I have support every step of the way. I think I'm well-prepared for the journey ahead.

But thank you for your concern.

Edited by celinerific, 21 June 2008 - 10:31 PM.

[Angel, You thrill me]

celinerific, on Jun 21 2008, 02:07 PM, said:

Some of you, but not all of you know that I am so crazily in love with a girl that I work with, her name is Fara. I work at a restaurant as a hostess and she's one of the servers. She is absolutely GORGEOUS and is really nice and lots of fun to be with. Basically, she's AMAZING. . But the thing is, she's not gay... (I'm not either. I'm in between (bi) ) And she has a boyfriend (apparently), but he lives halfway across the country, but that doesn't bug me.

Anyway, I've been working with her for about two months now and at this point I'm trying to get to know her better, to get close with her and stuff... which I'm approaching quite well, actually. Let me tell you what happened at work last night...

1. I got her to say she loved me! I did something for her and I said, "I'm only doing this because I love you THAT much." And then she said, "Well, I love you too!" And I replied, "Nuhhh. I love you more!" And then it kind of went on for a couple more rounds until we cracked up. But it was so wonderful.

2. I got her to promise me a picture She was sitting in front of me eating chocolate ice cream and then I was fiddling with my phone's camera and was like, "Smile!" and she was like, "Noooo! I'm not wearing makeup! Next time, next time!" And then I said, "Next time? Really? You promise? I remember these things, I'm watching you! Promise??" "Yes! I promise!"

3. She said something to me that made me go completely gah gah. I was waiting for my ride that took FOREVER to come. I ended up staying an hour and a half later than I should  have. I got off at 9:00pm, but didn't get my ride until 10:30pm... Fun, I know lol. And then she comes and sits in front of me and says, "Are you going to sleep here or something?" And I said, "At this rate, I think so." And she said... (OMG) "Awwe. You can come stay at my place. " I practically died LOL. And then I said, "I think that's what we're going to have to do if it comes to terms!" And then another 20 minutes passed by and I was like, "You know... I might have to come and crash at your place tonight." And she said, "Sure! You're more than welcome to!" *dies dies dies*.

4. And lastly... We hugged for the first time! This was absolutely magical! She and another server (Lisa) were about to leave (she was giving Lisa a ride home). And then I got up and was like, "Nope. You two aren't leaving without giving me a hug!" Fara and Lisa are my favourites amongst the servers. So I gave Lisa a hug. She was very huggable since she was kinda pudgy. And then I turned to face Fara and gave her a hug. I was amaaazzzinnggg. She hugged me back.

Anyway... It was an exciting night... for me anyway. My goal now is to get that picture with her... and perhaps get her number soon and then go out with her, like hang out or something to get to know each other better... On a friendly basis. That's all I could want/ask for right now. It's reward just to be able to be with her and to see her.

I was hoping I could get some insights on what I should do, how I should approach her... I know that this forum is full of people willing to help and I'd be so greatful if you could give me a hand! Thanks so much in advance!

OMG, what a big flirt you are lol, and it sounds like she was being a flirt back so it kind of sounds like shes on to you, its cute the way you guys are , i say you should take your charm each time to the next level, and try doing her some favors, i wouldn't worry too much it sounds like she knows there is something more than a friendship brewing  and i wouldn't worry about her bf if all goes right she'll fall madly in love with you and dump him lol he'll love again, so yeah try to crash at her place more often, maybe tell your ride to not come one night, but do it randomly so it isnt obvious.

Edited by strk125, 21 June 2008 - 11:46 PM.

[celinerific]

strk125, on Jun 22 2008, 01:41 AM, said:

OMG, what a big flirt you are lol, and it sounds like she was being a flirt back so it kind of sounds like shes on to you, its cute the way you guys are , i say you should take your charm each time to the next level, and try doing her some favors, i wouldn't worry too much it sounds like she knows there is something more than a friendship brewing  and i wouldn't worry about her bf if all goes right she'll fall madly in love with you and dump him lol he'll love again, so yeah try to crash at her place more often, maybe tell your ride to not come one night, but do it randomly so it isnt obvious.

LMAO!
You're funny. I'll take your advice into account!  
We'll see how things go, thanks for the tips.