One-sided love

[artist]

I'm pretty sure that many of us loved some people who didn't share us the same feelings, and many people loved us but we couldn't pay them back for their beautiful emotions.

 

Whether you faced the first case or the second, i would love to hear about it from you, so just open your memoires and unleach all those moments and how they happened.

[celinerific]

I'm currently madly in love with one of my teachers. But 1) It'd be illegal 2) I'm pretty sure she's straight. It's been going on for about five months now. It's pretty difficult to sit in her class a not be distracted lol. She's amazing - great teacher, very supportive, has a very positive and bubbly personality, and she's gorgeous beyond belief. But then again, it's only a mere fantasy.

 

I've tried getting closer with her as a friend on a more personal level. She gave me her phone number so that I could contact her for her website and stuff, so sometimes, I'd text her to see if she wanted Starbucks - just casual friend-texing. And then after a few months, she told me if her boss found out, she'd be SCREWED, and I respected that and removed her off of my phone. At one point I thought I was completely over her because we got into a big dispute and I didn't see her for awhile. But nonetheless, I was all happy, because the burden was off. But then a few weeks afterwards, she started growing on me again lol. Annnd, we're back to square one! But now, I try to keep more of a distance so that I don't fall in any deeper.

 

Hey, you know... it's difficult to have all these feelings for someone and have them not know, or not feel the same way. But some of us learn to deal with it in the end. Like me, I'm learning to deal with it. I accept that I do have feelings for her, but I also respect her enough that I won't act on my feelings. It's tough, but it's a job that needs to be done day in and day out.

Edited February 27, 2010 at 05:10 PM by celinerific

[Scramasboy]

This is going to sound stupid because he is famous, but the guitar player for my favorite band. The first time I listened to the band, without even seeing him I was entranced by his guitar riffs and his voice. I just wanted to hear more and see some and my heart would beat faster and faster. So I watched videos of them, him specifically, playing, just sitting around talking, whatever so Iv seen him live and everything, collect pictures, watch everything I can, just get chills from him, he makes me smile and laugh and his personality just shines for me. I'v felt like this since the first time I HEARD him, not even seen! And its been over 3 years It's cooled off a bit since I got my boyfriend, but Its still there for sure. And Celinerific *hugs*

[Nmj]

Ohh Yes!

[Jacqui]

Ohh yes. Been there. I was thinking about it just the other day. I won't go into details... but I think love is just the best thing you can experience in life. Even if it's not returned, it's still better than all the pain and fear and inadequacy we feel in this world.

[samart]

Well, I've never experienced anything but one-sided love(from both sides), so I don't really know what to write about. I suppose love to the universe doesn't count, does it?

[destin139]

It's blissful agony... at first the not knowing if they feel the same way, then finding out they dont and trying to get over them whilst all the while dreaming about the "what ifs"

And falling in love with someone who is unreachable...

[Bell]

It's blissful agony... at first the not knowing if they feel the same way, then finding out they dont and trying to get over them whilst all the while dreaming about the "what ifs"

And falling in love with someone who is unreachable...

I think just like you. You described it very well.

[reamary]

Yeeah I've been through it (both sides). Most of the times I haven't even told my crushes that I was in "love" with them, so in that case you can't even expect anything else but one-sided love. It can become very frustrating though...

[Celinechick]

My boyfriend and I have the strangest relationship! We don't really tell each other"love you", or anything. We don't even sit together at lunch! We are like really good friends. He does sweet little dinky things for me to make me smile. And it is funny for us both when I pick on him. I like small relationships, later on I'll be more into it. Is a relationship like this okay?

[patih_barsanti]

I was in love with my math teacher, but he is married and is illegal, then I gave up

[Charlie92]

Don't we all Edited March 13, 2010 at 02:07 PM by Charlie92

[Jacqui]

My boyfriend and I have the strangest relationship! We don't really tell each other"love you", or anything. We don't even sit together at lunch! We are like really good friends. He does sweet little dinky things for me to make me smile. And it is funny for us both when I pick on him. I like small relationships, later on I'll be more into it. Is a relationship like this okay?

 

As long as you're both happy, I think that kind of relationship is fine. Especially when you're still young, I know it sounds cliche but there's no need to rush anything.

[ferjaacu]

I've been through this too... It's so hard...

[volleyceline]

I'm pretty sure Will counts.

 

Good topic

[Haheather]

Yes.... His name is David Archuleta. And I love him!

[SensationalCeline]

I was absolutely head over heels for this boy in my class in high school. At first I thought he liked me too because he gave me his number and we always joked around and talked in class but it turned out he was just nice to me to get help for school and I fell for him.

 

Also, one boy liked me as well but I didn't see him in that way. I know it upset him but now I'm wondering what would have happened if I had given him a chance.

Edited July 3, 2011 at 04:38 AM by SensationalCeline

[sfbaysinger]

First off, Heather, it's all about David Cook so nice try. He won, the other one didn't. LOL!

About eight years ago, I fell for my best friend, who did not return the same feelings. It kept me awake at night. I would go on the net to find chatrooms to see if there were others who had this same problem. Worse still, oh the fantasies I could come up with. I wrote them down. I even wrote out my ideal wedding. I also used to hear Falling In To You, the song, and imagine us...doing things...and I'd put my arms out like I was imaginary dancing with them. They knew, but did not recyprocate. Thankfully our friendship was not damaged. They were flattered, but did not relate, or understand how I could love them in the way I do. Now it is just a distant memory for both of us, and FIY has reclaimed a zone free of these such imaginings in my being. But oh the poems I wrote, the sleepless nights, the tears. time is one of the best things for it, and, realizing, this is not the end of the world. It may feel like it, but feelings are fluid and they may feel enormous and big and eternal, but they are not. Feelings are not everything, they are not facts, they are not permanent and we do move past them!

[Haheather]

First off, Heather, it's all about David Cook so nice try. He won, the other one didn't. LOL!

About eight years ago, I fell for my best friend, who did not return the same feelings. It kept me awake at night. I would go on the net to find chatrooms to see if there were others who had this same problem. Worse still, oh the fantasies I could come up with. I wrote them down. I even wrote out my ideal wedding. I also used to hear Falling In To You, the song, and imagine us...doing things...and I'd put my arms out like I was imaginary dancing with them. They knew, but did not recyprocate. Thankfully our friendship was not damaged. They were flattered, but did not relate, or understand how I could love them in the way I do. Now it is just a distant memory for both of us, and FIY has reclaimed a zone free of these such imaginings in my being. But oh the poems I wrote, the sleepless nights, the tears. time is one of the best things for it, and, realizing, this is not the end of the world. It may feel like it, but feelings are fluid and they may feel enormous and big and eternal, but they are not. Feelings are not everything, they are not facts, they are not permanent and we do move past them!

 

Woah Woah Woah..... Who SHOULDVE won is the question. Archie is so much more successful and he's gorgeous and will always be my #1 boyfriend

[I Love You]

It's blissful agony... at first the not knowing if they feel the same way, then finding out they dont and trying to get over them whilst all the while dreaming about the "what ifs"

And falling in love with someone who is unreachable...

 

 

I am going, through it right with a certain young man I like name Nathan. I like him allot, but I don't now about him. Also, another man in my Pastorite might like me, uh oh.

[celinefanonline]

Yes.... His name is David Archuleta. And I love him!

 

u know that he's probably gay right? lol

[duri]

u know that he's probably gay right? lol

Oh NO, so then there´s absolutly no chance for her!

 

I been throught this too ... and not just once.

[reamary]

First off, Heather, it's all about David Cook so nice try. He won, the other one didn't. LOL!

About eight years ago, I fell for my best friend, who did not return the same feelings. It kept me awake at night. I would go on the net to find chatrooms to see if there were others who had this same problem. Worse still, oh the fantasies I could come up with. I wrote them down. I even wrote out my ideal wedding. I also used to hear Falling In To You, the song, and imagine us...doing things...and I'd put my arms out like I was imaginary dancing with them. They knew, but did not recyprocate. Thankfully our friendship was not damaged. They were flattered, but did not relate, or understand how I could love them in the way I do. Now it is just a distant memory for both of us, and FIY has reclaimed a zone free of these such imaginings in my being. But oh the poems I wrote, the sleepless nights, the tears. time is one of the best things for it, and, realizing, this is not the end of the world. It may feel like it, but feelings are fluid and they may feel enormous and big and eternal, but they are not. Feelings are not everything, they are not facts, they are not permanent and we do move past them!

 

Very well said!! When you really fall for someone, I mean like REALLY, the feelings definitely seem enormous and big and eternal, and you may wonder will you ever again feel the same way about anyone.. But time is the best thing for it, I agree!! Eventually the feelings will go away, when you've learnt there's no chance. And that's a good thing to know, it helps you through the harder times.

[Mrs.Goldman]

meh <_<

[Lian]

I experienced both. Falling in love with someone who doesn't love you back is awful. But I'm now in a different situation.. My best friend is gay and she has fallen in love with me. She told me a few months ago, and I expected it to fade, but her feelings only increased and it hurts me I can't love her back in that way. I mean, I love her so much, but not thát way. And I have a boyfriend, with whom she is friends too, and I am so amazed how they get along.

But a week ago she told me how every time she sees me with him, her stomach hurts and she just wants to cry.. And I feel so sorry for her and I can't help her. I really hoped her feelings would pass but apparantly they don't and I don't know what to do.. I'm so glad that our friendship hasn't been affected by all this. But I love her and I can't stand seeing her suffer. And even more because she's suffering because of me..

 

I'm sorry for this long story But I had to get it off my chest. And tell 'the other side of the story'

[volleyceline]

I experienced both. Falling in love with someone who doesn't love you back is awful. But I'm now in a different situation.. My best friend is gay and she has fallen in love with me. She told me a few months ago, and I expected it to fade, but her feelings only increased and it hurts me I can't love her back in that way. I mean, I love her so much, but not thát way. And I have a boyfriend, with whom she is friends too, and I am so amazed how they get along.

But a week ago she told me how every time she sees me with him, her stomach hurts and she just wants to cry.. And I feel so sorry for her and I can't help her. I really hoped her feelings would pass but apparantly they don't and I don't know what to do.. I'm so glad that our friendship hasn't been affected by all this. But I love her and I can't stand seeing her suffer. And even more because she's suffering because of me..

 

I'm sorry for this long story But I had to get it off my chest. And tell 'the other side of the story'

 

That must be tough

[Lian]

Not as tough as it is for her

[volleyceline]

Yeah but unfortunately the more time she spends with you, probably the more she'll love you..

The way i think about it, if someone is trying to get over someone, then they have to like not associate with them..

[celinefanonline]

I experienced both. Falling in love with someone who doesn't love you back is awful. But I'm now in a different situation.. My best friend is gay and she has fallen in love with me. She told me a few months ago, and I expected it to fade, but her feelings only increased and it hurts me I can't love her back in that way. I mean, I love her so much, but not thát way. And I have a boyfriend, with whom she is friends too, and I am so amazed how they get along.

But a week ago she told me how every time she sees me with him, her stomach hurts and she just wants to cry.. And I feel so sorry for her and I can't help her. I really hoped her feelings would pass but apparantly they don't and I don't know what to do.. I'm so glad that our friendship hasn't been affected by all this. But I love her and I can't stand seeing her suffer. And even more because she's suffering because of me..

 

I'm sorry for this long story But I had to get it off my chest. And tell 'the other side of the story'

 

but did u tell her about that u love her but not the same way and u r not gay??

 

btw now i got a crush on someone (probably in love already)....

Edited July 17, 2011 at 12:19 AM by celinefanonline

[reamary]

I experienced both. Falling in love with someone who doesn't love you back is awful. But I'm now in a different situation.. My best friend is gay and she has fallen in love with me. She told me a few months ago, and I expected it to fade, but her feelings only increased and it hurts me I can't love her back in that way. I mean, I love her so much, but not thát way. And I have a boyfriend, with whom she is friends too, and I am so amazed how they get along.

But a week ago she told me how every time she sees me with him, her stomach hurts and she just wants to cry.. And I feel so sorry for her and I can't help her. I really hoped her feelings would pass but apparantly they don't and I don't know what to do.. I'm so glad that our friendship hasn't been affected by all this. But I love her and I can't stand seeing her suffer. And even more because she's suffering because of me..

 

I'm sorry for this long story But I had to get it off my chest. And tell 'the other side of the story'

 

Not as tough as it is for her

 

I know it must be very tough for you too (and of course even more so for her, as you said yourself), but I think there is nothing you can do to help her, really. It's not your fault she has fallen for you and she just has to find the way to get over the feelings, though it may be REALLY hard. But I don't think you can do anything about it, though it's a real bummer. I think at some point she will start to "accept" it, that you can't feel the same way for her and once she'll do that, I think she'll start to get over her feelings for you. These things just take time... To give an example, I made a move towards someone almost FIVE months ago (after having been "in love" with them for more than a year) and I am STILL not over the person, but these days I've noticed my feelings finally starting to get weaker (I think ), after five months.

But I really adore the way you react to the whole situation, I mean how well you're taking it, that she has those feelings for you! It's amazing, and I think not everyone can do that.

 

Yeah but unfortunately the more time she spends with you, probably the more she'll love you..

The way i think about it, if someone is trying to get over someone, then they have to like not associate with them..

 

Yeah, I kinda agree with you.. The best way to get over someone is to not be around them I think. Though it doesn't always help, well not right away at least, but in time it'll get better. Though in a situation when it's about two close friends, it's probably pretty hard to not spend time together.